Limiting beliefs, we are all victims of them at one time or another! Regardless of our background, we all have beliefs that have been ingrained in us since childhood. These come from what we have learned, from our upbringing, experiences and environment.
Beliefs are more often associated with positive and negative, correct or incorrect elements. But what are the limiting beliefs? These are beliefs that we adopt that prevent us from moving forward and developing personally. Many times these beliefs are so integral to us that we are unaware that they have a huge impact on how we see the world.
It is not easy to let go of these convictions, especially if we have always lived with these certainties. However, it is extremely important to free yourself from these mental barriers if you want to move forward. It is impossible to achieve our ambitious aspirations if our biggest obstacle is our own head!
That's why this week's article is about 5 limiting beliefs and why they ruin your life! Let's go!
1. I will be happy when I have succeeded
This is probably the worst limiting belief you can have. Happiness is not something that just happens to you! You have total control over your feeling of happiness at all times. You have to stop thinking that happiness will appear in your life only in the future. Otherwise, you will never reach it!
Happiness is a choice. He is everywhere ! Don't miss the best moments of your life because you are running after happiness, live it now! To do this, pay more attention to your daily life. Be grateful for the little things will make you so much happier with your present! Do you have a roof over your head? What to eat ? A family and friends who love you? Therein lies happiness!
Appreciating your life as it is does not mean losing your ambitions. On the contrary, your recognition of the present moment will help you achieve your goals and objectives. You have to say to yourself: " I'm happy with the life I'm leading right now, I'll be just as happy when I've reached x goals in a few years!" »
2. I have to work very hard to achieve my goals
I have to admit that I am a victim of this limiting belief. It often feels that to achieve any goal a little outside the lines of the norm the path will be difficult. Why wouldn't it be easy on the contrary? What's the appeal of working hard when you can work smart?
I am working on removing this belief from my head in 2021. You don't have to work hard to be successful. You just need to be well organized and work strategically!
3. I always have to please others, otherwise they won't like me.
Another limiting belief that afflicts me... Yes, I am a real "people pleaser". Some of you may recognize yourself in this character trait. Which is actually a very powerful limiting belief in those in whom it resides. For my part, it is a belief that only afflicts me with the people I love, but I know that for some it is something that can affect you in all your social relationships.
Not easy to manage! The trick I have for you is to establish your personal limits. First with yourself, then with your loved ones. No need to make it a confrontation. Bringing up the subject of your limits doesn't have to be a discussion in itself. You can only mention what suits you or not with situation x when it arises and move on.
As "people pleasers", we often tend to play big scenarios when it comes time to establish our limits with someone. You will see that the other person's reaction will be quite "disappointing" compared to your scenarios. If you start by establishing these basics with your loved ones, it will become easier and easier to establish your limits as you do so. Quickly, this limiting belief will be gone and you will be fulfilled! ;)
4. I have to take it all on my shoulders
You don't have to endure everything! Repeat after me: I don't take it all on my shoulders if I can't. Our society's biased notion that we have to be able to endure anything and thrive through it all is ridiculous... Your mental health is a real priority.
If you think you have too much on your plate, it's totally okay to let things go. That doesn't mean you won't come back. It's just not the right time yet. Your entourage will not judge you and if they do, ask yourself what kind of entourage you have! It may be time for a change.
5. If I make a mistake, I have failed horribly.
Can we live? There's nothing that gets on my nerves more than someone who doesn't take a risk because they're afraid of making a mistake. SO ? What does it change to make a mistake? I don't know about you, but I'd rather embark on an exciting project and miss it than spend the rest of my life wondering what my life might have been like if I had done that project.
Making a mistake is not failure. That's life ! It happens. And most of the time. There is a learning experience that comes with error. It's perfect ! It gets you going. I understand that you can't always see a mistake on the positive side. It is sometimes a hard pill to swallow. The important thing is to understand that this mistake is not the end of yourself. It's something that happened to you, that's all! Do an introspection on the why and how of this error and move on.
Above all, don't let the fear of failure get in the way of making more risky decisions in your life. You will regret it!
Get rid of these limiting beliefs!
If you recognized yourself in some of these limiting beliefs, that's great! You have taken the first step towards your change of mentality. These 5 beliefs are only a tiny part of all the beliefs we have that keep us from moving forward.
The important thing is to try to spot them when they arise in our mind. Then to ask yourself the question: why do I think that? Is this really true? What can I do to change my view of this situation? It's everyday work, but it's very important to relieve you of all those certainties that prevent you from living your dream life!